Often we are faced with decisions that we need to make on whether we will help our loved one in addiction. When we first start dealing with the wreckage of a loved one’s addiction we are often uninformed and ill equipped about what to do, I know I was. It seemed whatever I did just made things worse and I became more resentful. For example many addicts go from rehab to a sober living house. Although many times there is an agreement that if they relapse they need to figure out where they will go and not give them an option to come home. Yet when the dreaded relapse occurs, we are faced with this heart wrenching decision – do we leave them out in the cold or take them in?
I’m not for one decision or the other – both have consequences which can be very unpleasant or it could have a good outcome. In my experience we did what we felt in our heart when faced with difficult decisions. And sometimes the outcome was not good for my daughter and actually enabled her to keep going down a dark road. The bottom line is that there is no ‘right’ answer. Many people will have opinions on what to do – very strong opinions. But in the end it’s your child and you have to make the decision that is best for you and your situation. We need to look at each decision and think about whether it will help or whether it will hinder the health and well-being of the people involved. With each decision and outcome we learn, we adjust, and keep moving forward. Each family has to work together and make the next ‘right’ decision for their circumstance.