A while ago, I read about a book called “Dear Me, a Letter to my 16-Year Old Self.” Amazon describes the book like this: “In Dear Me, 75 celebrities, writers, musicians, athletes, and actors have written letters to their younger selves that give words of comfort, warning, humor, and advice. These letters present intimate, moving, and witty insights into some of the world’s most intriguing and admired individuals. By turns funny, surprising, raw, and uplifting, this singular collection captures the universal conditions that are youth, life, and growing up.
It got me thinking—what would I say to my thirty-year old self as I launched my ship into the seas of parenthood? Maybe something like this…. “Dear Me: As you welcome your first child into the world, the good news is that you are embarking on a wonderful journey of discovery. The bad news is that you don’t get a map of any sort, beyond the wisdom offered by Dr. Spock. And he doesn’t cover teen substance abuse. So here is a list of tips to make the sailing smoother:
· Be clear on your expectations and stick with consequences.
· No matter what your kids do or don’t do, treat them with love and respect.
· No matter what you do or don’t do, treat yourself with love and respect.
· Holding on to past hurts only prolongs the suffering
· Forgive yourself and others.
· Know that you did the best job you could do at the time.
Well, that’s a start. Looking back, what pearls of wisdom would you offer yourself (and others) who have journeyed through the Land of Addiction?