Your Question: My son was denied rehab from every facility we went to this year; our insurance company basically said if he is not suicidal, we can’t accept him. Insane! So, we self-paid over $30,000 and almost lost our house. The good news: he was clean for 6 months…the bad news: he is no longer sober. After a very good friend recently passed away, he spiraled downward and turned to drugs to cope. We can no longer afford health insurance and really, what would be the reason to purchase again as every door was closed with it?! I spoke to someone who indicated that some rehabs offer grants or pro-bono type cases, etc. Are any of you familiar with this?
Should I call every rehab and just ask or do you think this is just a waste of my time? It is so sad that we live in United States and we can’t help our children and young adults (ours just turned 20). It’s even sadder when this person wants the help which is such a huge step. Any insight on where I can go… where maybe a door would open would be most appreciated. In the meantime, we will continue to hold him prisoner the best we can and watch out the window for a possible car pulling up to the house. Again thank you all for your time.
ANSWER FROM EXPERT KENT MORRISON: Yes there are programs out there that do help find scholarship monies to send people to rehab. Some places like Hazelden Center for Youth and Families (HCYF) have patient aid money awarded depending on need. Making a phone call to their intake department would be the best way to start. A financial case manager would contact the family and do a needs-assessment and award money depending on the assessment.
Also, there is an organization which is designed to help addicts get to rehab. H.E.A.R.T , which stands for Helping Every Alcohol/Addict Receive Treatment. H.E.A.R.T. has been doing this sort of thing for a long time and they have established many relationships with treatment facilities. I would suggest looking more into their website and making contact with one of their representatives. I hope this helps, Kent Morrison, MA, LAADC-r, CADC II
ANSWER FROM EXPERT RICKI TOWNSEND: The best way I could possibly answer this question is to first say, “I so agree with you” regarding the way those of us in addiction are treated by Insurance companies. I would have to say also my vision for the future – that we are treated with dignity and deep concern. This is a DISEASE of the brain.
Yes, some treatment centers offer scholarships. I travel and am involved with many around the United States and a lot of treatment centers bring Interventionists out, at their cost, to see these treatment centers. Some will do a scholarship a year, some a month.
Yes, you can call centers and ask if they offer a scholarship, or if they have any ideas for you. They can be extremely helpful, and kind. What about in your county? Are there programs he can do free, or at a small cost? What about Salvation Army? Be prepared to hear they have a waiting list.
What I would respectfully like to ask though, “What is he doing at this moment for himself?”
What are you doing to care for you? We women have a difficult time self-soothing and giving ourselves time. Are you putting more work into this then your son is? One question we ask in Al-Anon as well as in my field of intervention is :Are you wanting this treatment more than he is?” I know this is hard, believe me, I too am a mom with a loved one in active addiction.
A task I would give you,if you were to accept it, is to write a journal every day for one week. This will be a time journal to actually record where your time is going in every hour from your waking moment and until you go to bed. Put it in your purse, take it out when you get home and have it with you every moment for a week. This is one way of seeing where you are putting your time.
I wish you the best,